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Resilience: Stress Hardiness & Strength

“Success and significance is determined by the size of the problems you're capable of solving". Anon

"Our success and significance does not come from the circumstances we find ourselves in but comes from the choices we make. Make choices that inspire your heart, nurture your brain and nourish your soul". Nido Qubien

With economic uncertainty continuing, it's a great time to test our tools of emotional fitness. Tony Robbins has helped people reach their potential for three decades and believes if you're psychologically strong enough you can not only survive external circumstances such as these but you can thrive. So rather than letting the environment control you and take over, it's really about mastering strength within yourself so you can conquer the outer world around you.

 The great thing about tough times is that it moves those of us who are not really happy, but not unhappy enough to do anything about it.

Having our cages rattled can be a real blessing in disguise. It can wake us from our slumber and encourage us to be proactive. We need to assess our capabilities and resolve to strengthen our positions in relationships and in our working lives in tough times. What's the alternative? Giving over to circumstances which we have no control over weakens us, opens us up to stress, anxiety, worry and generally only serves to disempower us.



Not only does stress have an impact on our emotional and mental well-being but it also affects our physical condition. Body aches, fatigue, poor immune functioning, depression and anxiety have all been linked to stress.

The stressors that elicit stress can be 'external' or 'internal'. External stressors are the events that we often have no control over. They can range from mild - the train was cancelled, to extreme - death of a loved one.

It's the internal stressors that we can control and include the way we handle and manage ourselves when exposed to external stressors.

One of the most effective mantras used within coaching is to 'control the controllables'. This can be easier said than done and a shift in thinking, some new skills and a change of attitude can be just what's needed to succeed.

When at work, our anger at a colleague or manager, our pessimistic thinking or longstanding anxiety that has been left unattended are all things we can manage - if we choose.



So how do you score when it comes to Resilience and Stress Hardiness? Research suggests that Resilience is thought to rely heavily on three critical success factors - Control, Commitment and Challenge. These differentiate those of us who are resilient to stress from those who are vulnerable to it. And, as highlighted in our 'Did You Know?', those who experience less stress, tend not to burnout or become ill as often.

Some people become overwhelmed by stress more quickly than others. Learn about the developing resilience traits and developing stress hardiness through managing limiting beliefs and shifting perspectives to relieve the symptoms and negative effects of stress through coaching.

  • Get the overwhelm from stress under control so you can become more resilient.
  • Learn the simple methods that can transform low levels of stress hardiness.
  • Uncover the fears and anxiety that lead to stress and poor decision making. Learn about the three Universal fears that apply to us all and how to manage them to free yourself.

Contact us today to learn more and move your life, and your work, forward. T 1300 788 678



There have been times in my career and personal life where pressures just seemed to continue piling up. And no matter how much time, effort, money and resources have gone in to alleviating these pressures, I have felt as though I was making little headway.

In hindsight, I can certainly see how I could have managed the associated stress a lot more effectively, making life easier not only for myself, but for others around me who were also under pressure at the time.  On the other hand, I can recall times where I took what I now know to be a 'coach-like' approach and "controlled the controllables".

By taking care of the things I could influence and letting go of the need to control other factors, I was able to release a measure of stress instantly.  I find now that I often get to the point of simply making a list (mentally, much of the time) of what I can control, and then ensuring that I am comfortable with external factors 'running their course'.

Of course, it's great to make a list, but what are you going to do about it. It is vitally important to follow up the rhetoric with a commitment to do as much as you possibly can to influence the factors you do have some control over. I think back to the birth of my first child and being faced with the knowledge that I would have no control over what was about to happen to my wife, or how the labour would progress. If I hadn't done the research and planning that I did prior to that event, my stress levels would have been far greater than they were. As it was, I was comfortable that I had done everything I could to make sure I was able to play my part to the best of my ability. I think I did well, but I wasn't the one in labour!

Finally, be prepared to take on a challenge! By making sure you've taken care of those factors you can control, you can't fail. Sure, it may not work out as planned, but you will be entirely comfortable in yourself that you've done all you can to ensure success. Control the Controllables, and let the rest look after itself.


Simon Altschwager
Operations Manager
Coach & Co. Pty Ltd


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